Category Archives: Closure

It is a night for the senses (video)

I have my head phones on.  Not those ear-buds that curl up in the hub of ones ear.  I have my big ear muff, acoustic-paradise head phones on.  My ears are devouring a delight of poetry and lullabies. Anis Mojgani … Continue reading

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Miracle of miracles! Justice prevails afterall.

Last March I had what I thought was a brilliant idea.  I had become involved in a project for Uganda through an organization called A Thing For Another (AT4A.)  Helping others was part of my healing process.  I felt capable.  … Continue reading

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SAYING GOODBYE TO MATERNITY CLOTHES

I always knew I would love being pregnant.  Unlike most third trimester women, I wanted to keep my baby right where she was; in my womb, kicking at me from within my body, making my tummy dance, and putting on … Continue reading

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COLLATERAL DAMAGE – what suicide does to the left-behinds

Today is the day I realized why some people feel suicide is selfish.  Today is the day I saw the collateral damage caused to the left-behinds. Over the past few weeks I have met with a number of individuals who … Continue reading

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FOR THE LOVE OF YOUR SPOUSE, your parent(s), your kid(s), GET A WILL!

“He had a terminal illness and he didn’t tell you what his wishes were?  How is that possible?” I was shocked to learn, speaking to other individuals whose spouses died of terminal illnesses, that not all of them had had … Continue reading

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SCATTERING: finding beauty from ashes PART 2

The place: Barbados. The destination: Earthworks Pottery. The timeline: mid-vacation. My late-husband’s ashes rested in my black leather bag.  Every morning I walked on the beach, and in the height of the afternoon sun I swam in the sea.  I … Continue reading

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SCATTERING: finding beauty from ashes PART 1

The place: Canada.  The destination: Barbados.  The timeline: the night before departure. I lugged my over-sized blue suitcase up the stairs from the basement.  I’m pretty sure everything I need I can fit into hand luggage. Passport?  Check. Swimsuit?  Check. … Continue reading

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STIGMA IN A LARGE YELLOW ENVELOPE (or Stigma spelled S-U-I-C-I-D-E)

  I checked the mail today.  Inside was a large yellow envelope addressed to me from the Regional Supervising Coroner’s office. This envelope, I hoped, would contain some answers about my husband’s death that had been unclear.  When the police … Continue reading

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THE MASK OF THE UNCOMFORTABLE NOTHINGNESS

The uncomfortable nothingness.  It’s a feeling I get sometimes.  I know in my core it is not the true feeling.  It is a mask hovering over the true emotions that are lurking beneath the surface. The nothingness is uncomfortable for … Continue reading

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